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John D. Ryder

Born: Mon., Dec. 30, 1940
Died: Fri., May 1, 2020


Funeral Service

Location: Private


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Attorney John D. Ryder, 79, of Lakeville MA died May 1, 2020 from Covid-19 at Oak Hill Nursing Home in Middleboro.

Born December 30, 1940 he was the son of Nathaniel D. Ryder and Sybil (Thomas) Ryder.  Atty. Ryder graduated for Middleboro High School, Dartmouth College and Suffolk Law School.

John leaves two sons John D. Ryder, Jr. and Jeffrey Ryder of E. Taunton, MA; two brothers Donald Ryder and his wife Margaret of France, Thomas Ryder and his wife Sonnie of NC and a sister Martha Payne and her husband Eric of ME along with several nieces and nephews.  He also leaves his former wife Carla Ryder of Worcester, MA.

John grew up in Middleboro and then lived most of his life in Lakeville.  Atty. Ryder practiced law for over 40 years and had a successful law office in Lakeville.  John was an avid sports fan and devoted father to his two sons.  He loved gardening and was an accomplished tennis player winning may titles and trophies.  John served on many committees and boards in his lifetime including The Massachusetts Bar Association, The Plymouth County Bar Association, Trustee on the board for Eastern Bank and was a member of the First Congregational Church in Middleboro.

All services are private due to Covid-19 with burial taking place at Rock Village Cemetery.

To print obituary or send a condolence to the family please visit www.d-mfh.com.  Arrangements are by the

Dahlborg-MacNevin Funeral Home, 280 Bedford Street, Lakeville, MA  02347. (508) 946-9655

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Martha Payne
   Posted Tue May 05, 2020
John was not just closest in age to me of my three brothers, but close in so many ways. We shared early childhood friends and games. He was the comedian in our performances for the neighbors. He was a fine athlete and it was exciting to watch him play Little League baseball and tennis. I remember him building a ski ramp so we could ski down our driveway, across the street, down our neighbors’ small hill. He loved observing the weather, measuring the snow, playing a wild game of hockey in the garage with his brothers. John was always kind and very loyal. He wanted the best for everyone. He encouraged me in all of my pursuits. John was very proud of his law practice. He felt that he and Patti Bartlett, his legal assistant, made a great team. He truly enjoyed his professional career and representing his clients well. His involvement with the Maxim Fund was very gratifying. He loved meeting applicants and assisting with scholarships. And if he could steer a student towards Dartmouth College, his beloved alma mater, all the better. He loved coaching Little League and working and playing with his sons and their friends. He was proud of his family and felt that he had done his best to contribute to his beloved community. I am sorry that we can not celebrate John’s life in a big way at this time, and I will miss him when I set out Memorial Day flowers this year. Traditionally, John and I did this act of love and memory together. John had an abiding faith in God and is at peace in a place prepared for him. Martha Ryder Payne, John’s sister

Andy Sergio
   Posted Tue May 05, 2020
I grew up on Rush Pond Rd. in Lakeville and to say I was at the Ryder house often is an understatement. It was my second home for all of my youth and young adulthood. Some of my greatest memories were made there. Mr. and Mrs. Ryder were the most welcoming people you could imagine…truly a second family. In all the years I knew Mr. Ryder he never had a negative or harsh word to say…and there was plenty the neighborhood crew did that would have made most others irate. He didn’t even mind when we turned his beautiful home office into a dorm/music hall/bar. He brought me to countless Red Sox games, vacations, etc. He was one of the most generous people I’ve ever met. He had an awesome sense of humor and a crazy basketball hook shot that he would amazingly make from 30ft away with consistency. I believe he was happiest watching and playing tennis and other sports with Johnny and Jeff. I’ll always remember him for his kindness, generosity and sense of humor. RIP Mr. Ryder.

The Maddigan family
   Posted Tue May 05, 2020
Dear Tom & family,


Very sorry for Your loss

The LORD Jesus blanket & comfort you All

with His abiding Peace...

Isaiah 25:8a
HE (Christ Jesus)
WILL Swallow Up death FOREVER,


Bill Markson
   Posted Wed May 06, 2020
I am saddened to learn of John's passing. I had dealings with him during my years practicing law. He was a gentleman.

carla ryder
   Posted Wed May 06, 2020
I knew John for almost fifty years, thirty of which we were married. I knew him almost better than anyone. John ha a tough five years with health problems but always had a positive attitude and his sons were always there for him. Johnny and Jeff loved him and he was lucky to have such devoted sons. Since Nov. all John wanted was to go home (out of the nursing home), yet despite his sons best efforts he wasn't allowed to go home. I remember one of John's favorite poem was "Footprints in the Sand"."...I noticed during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life there was only one set of footprints...Why did you leave when I needed you most... The Lord whispered"My precious child, I love you and will never leave you. Never during your trials and testing when you saw only one set of footprints. It was then that I carried you," Jesus is carrying John now to his eternal homw in Heaven, Rest in Peace John, You're going home. Carla

Susan Payne-Nelson
   Posted Wed May 06, 2020
I will remember my Uncle John for the fun and laughter he brought with him. When I was young he always had a funny joke to share or would tell an elaborate story to my brother and I that usually involved a bear and a scary walk in the woods. As I grew older he showed an interest in what I was studying in school, and would ask me about my plans and encourage my aspirations. I will miss him and wish to express my condolences to my cousins Johnny and Jeffery and my Aunt Carla.

Peter Burbank
   Posted Thu May 07, 2020
I am sorry to learn of John's passing. I had the privilege of assisting John and his clients over the years. He was a man of integrity and will be missed. My condolences and sympathy to John's family. Peter Burbank, Burbank Wealth Management

Carolyn Laubenstein
   Posted Thu May 07, 2020
Dear Ryder family,

Attorney Ryder was a frequent flyer here at the Registry of Deeds in Brockton. He was always telling us about his sons, their trips together & their love for Baseball. He was so proud of your accomplishments. He was the epitome of a gentlemen and a very proud dad. May he Rest in the Sweetest Peace. He will be missed.

Paul and Diane Valentine
   Posted Thu May 07, 2020
Carla, Johnny, and Jeffrey,

We are so very sorry for your loss. John was a good friend and great attorney. Many good memories of times with John and Carla through the years. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Robert Saquet, president Middleboro Rotary Club
   Posted Fri May 08, 2020
The members of the Middleboro Rotary Club will miss "Jack" Ryder, who was a long time member. Jack was there nearly 50 years ago when he became a charter member of the club. Jack was very active in Rotary projects that served the community as well as global concerns that focused on ending polio and bringing clean water and educational opportunities to nations around the world. We remember his strong affection for his favorite team, the Boston Red Sox, and the pride he took in the accomplishments of his children. Rotarians and their families always regarded him as a friend.
He lived the Rotary "Four way test" in the things he thought, said or did:
Is it the truth,
Is it fair to all concerned,
Will it build good will and better friendships,
Will it be beneficial to all concerned.
We all will miss you.

Maria Martin
   Posted Sun May 10, 2020
The Friends of the Lakeville Library would like to express their condolences for the loss of your husband and brother. He was instrumental in helping the Friends for many years receive funding for our annual membership drive. Many your fond memories of him help you through this difficult time.

Maria Martin
President of the Friends of the Lakeville Public Library

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